On March 10th, 2016 I turned the big 5-0. Instead of creating a bucket list of things I wanted to do without any specific timeline, I decided to spend this whole year trying new things. In an effort to keep people updated on my progress I have created an FB page titled Fifty Firsts At 50.
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I packed my OCD, and a weeks worth of clothes
in another city, outside her door, is where I froze this is where I will be for the next seven days hoping that when she asked for my help it wasn't just a faze the stench overpowering when she opened the front door kitty litter among the clutter in the middle of the floor she complains about the smell of other people's perfume oblivious to the odour coming from her own living room trying to organize her apartment to be fumigated at the end of week one only one room was vacated a complete contradiction are the items she has in store cleaners, containers, and garbage bags galore soaps, shampoos, shower gels and conditioners which she claimed not to have to any of her listeners there was clothing, and bedding and balls of wool crochet projects that had to be cut ... you couldn't pull I seriously began to lose all sense of sanity when she decided to waste time rearranging the vanity she didn't like how I had organized her soap basket wasting 'our' time reshuffling ... I almost blew a gasket it's understandable the level of anxiety she must feel not able to get into her kitchen to cook a decent meal telling me she would make me food if she could reach I called her out on her B.S. & I gave her a speech you've been cleaning your bedroom for over four days you've moved stuff to a new pile, that's where it all stays all of those clothes that you're so intent on keeping even if it interferes with the space where your sleeping the undercover bedbugs were on full nightly patrol the flies seemed to have the aerials under air force control one was determined to take giant chunks out of me the other covered any spare surface your eyes could see at one point she asked me to tackle the kitchen I told her that enabling her was not part of my mission I suggested how she might begin the cleaning process she just treated this situation like it was school recess her landlord had threatened to kick her out on the street unfortunately I think hoarding has my ex BFF beat I don't think she understands the depth of her trouble I have no clue what will break her out of her bubble I did everything to help her that I possibly could definitely way more than what most people would I bought Chinese food for two the final night I was there I knew I was ending this friendship ... so that was only fair it's not easy to watch someone fall off a pedestal or realise that maybe they never belonged up there at all but by far the most confusing thing to me was how can she be acting as someone else's trustee? by Cheryl Duggan March 3, 2016 Have you ever been to a concert where you want to tell the people around you to just STFU? Yeah, me too. Thankfully, Don't Speak (presented by Wavelength) has taken care of that for us. Don't Speak Friday, March 25 @ Array Space (155 Walnut Ave) 7:30 p.m. $8 Adv at Ticketfly.com / $10 door All Ages / Licensed This is a concert where talking is STRICTLY forbidden. "Herein, speaking is outlawed. Upon entering the building, lips must remain sealed. Ambience of sight and sound will provide the viscous background. Writing materials will be provided to all attending, for ease of communication." I think they may want to have rolls of duct tape on hand ... Just in case.
Thankfully, the documentary AMY is available on Neflix. I definitely needed to take a second crack at it after it won the Oscar for Best Documentary. Especially, after Amy's father Mitch starting whining all over social media about how this was a "negative, spiteful and misleading portrayal" of his daughter.
What I recalled from watching the documentary (before I nodded off in the wee hours one morning) didn't quite match up with Mitch trying to act as a concerned parent. My memory hadn't failed me. Amy was discussing her relationship with her parents. Her mother could never discipline her and her brother. "My dad was never there to be like 'Listen to your mother!' You know what I mean? That's what we needed ... Cuz he was working'" Mitch admits within moments of Amy's statement to having an eight or nine year affair with a co-worker and being too much of a coward to actually leave the matrimonial home. Obviously, her fathers working was more recreational than occupational. Later on in the documentary one of Amy's besties recalls an event where they reached out to Mitch when they realized that she really needed help. Amy admitted to being lost and out of her depth. She agreed to go to rehab. After she meets the rehab guy she says "I'll go if my dad thinks I should go." Even today he insists that she didn't need to go to rehab. Another moment that Mitch didn't live up to his roll of 'Dad' was after Amy had overdosed on cocaine, heroin, alcohol, and crack. Her friends once again asked her father Mitch Winehouse, to do something. His response was "What am I going to do? She's gotta go on tour." By no means, are those the only incidents where Mitch Winehouse totally dropped the ball when it came to his daughter within the documentary AMY. All I can say, is that I am surprised that he didn't claim that this was a "negative, spiteful and misleading portrayal" of HIMSELF!. |